... lovely, there is this one girl who used to (or still has) feelings for him. because of this, she always blanks me if she sees me, or speaks to him while i am there as he encourages conversation, but despite my various attempts to strike up a friendship she remains cold towards me. I don't know what i should do as ignoring her in her own home seems like an uncomfortable option for me, i would like to be friends but i don't know what more i can do?
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If you don't want to risk making things worse, just leave it as is. Have you talked to your partner as to what is going on? This is his friend so maybe you should defer to what he thinks is best.
Otherwise, if you can't stand it. Just explain this directly to her as you have to us, and if she is still not interested just leave her to her own business. I would assume at some point your partner is moving out of this house, and for now this is something you have to deal with.
I am not sure you can force anything. I just hope it works out well for you. He's working on a phd, hopefully you are also making good use of the next few years.
Yeah, i'm in my second year of university and i am a qualified carer for the elderly so i like to think so.
yes i have spoken to him and asked him to talk to her about it, but this would mean him admitting he knew she fancied him which he thinks would make everything extremely awkward for her, he has suggested offering her some cake or drinks or smoke and all i have tried still when it is just her and i in the house she remains silent towards me so i feel uncomfortable, the house is nice and all the housemates other than her are nice towards me, i don't think he will be moving out anytime soon nor would i want him to, he is doing a phd so will be in the same place for a few years to come i imagine... just wish i could get her to like me because i'm actually a nice girl