Hey everyone...I'll get straight to the point. I [20/F] really really love my boyfriend [24/M] a lot and I know he loves me that much aswell. We are having a long distance relationship at the moment which used to be a small problem to us but we got used to it and we are just so excited to meet again very soon.
So the thing is I always always had the feeling that he wasn't being honest to me and that he was lying to me. I started thinking I was super insecure (I am a bit insecure but not that much) because there was never really any prove that he lied or cheated or anything like that. Just this year has been weird regarding lying and cheating...
He once told me that it would not be a problem for him if i would log into his accounts but I never did that.. He must have forgotten that I still knew his passwords tho from him telling me. Because when I once went into his Facebook to look at a friend he is friends with and saw they messaged each other I came to his inbox seeing like 15+ girls he has been texting.
Actually I was shocked to see that because the day before he totally promised me that there was just 1 girl he texted on Facebook. It shocked me the way he was talking to them. He said things like "Hey Beautiful girl" (something he hasn't said to me in ages) "Give me your whatsapp" and all these things. So I tried to make him admit it the next day in an indirect way.. It got worse he just told me even more lies. After that I asked him to send me a Screenshot of his inbox and he was getting mad and was trying to make me feel bad that I never trust him and he has to explain everything to me all the time... Then he sent me a Screenshot of his inbox with just 2 girls there and told me that I'm the one with the problems because I can not trust him. Since I did some screenshots of his inbox aswell before he could delete anything I sent him this in return. In general there have been small lies from his side aswell. Since this day I'm having even more trust issues. Nowadays he is talking to another girl who he has told me about but I've seen that he sends her kisses and talks more to her than to me. He started being more honest but still I don't have any clue what to do now. This new girl could be a problem because of the way they talk and get close because that's the way our relationship started... We talked, got close, got best friends and became lovers. Am I exaggerating when I'm saying I'm having trouble trusting him? And what could I do now?? I really love him so much!
I am having troubles trusting my boyfriend?
Answers (2)
It sounds like he is reaching out to because he's lonely its possible they are just talking he shouldn't have any problem with you looking at his stuff, but you need to monitor his activity on facebook. Do this without letting him know but you also got to trust him at the same time you also have to trust him does he trust you?
A good relationshiop always need a bit of trust, trust me I know! I agree with the previous answer. Just keep checking his account often but not to much so that he becomes suspicious. A long distance relationship is often lonely.
If you already haven't, I think that you should go and have a talk with him. And if you do I wouldn't treat it like it's a casual thing, because it's obviously a big deal to you. Tell him that you love him but it makes you feel uncomfortable to see him talking with other girls. And the fact that he's denying it makes him seem less trustworthy. See what happens. If he ignores you or it gets worse, maybe you should think about if you should really be with this guy. But remember, everyone makes mistakes. Good luck!
Hey thanks for ur answer! Yes he trusts me a lot but he always tells me to block guys that flirt with me but he flirts with others himself. He is not lonely at all he is so busy at the moment there is no time for me because of his course work but for her he always has time. I have to wait at least 10 mins for his reply after every message I send him just because he's talk to her. When I asked him today to give me her name so I can tell her that he has got a girlfriend because he won't say it he said there's no need to talk to her and tried to make it look like a joke and changed the topic.