... my school, but I occasionally get approached by guys while I'm at work. In the past year I have had 3 men i was still getting to know tell me that they need to "figure things out" and fall completely off the grid. This has happened after they have approached me in the first place, and we have been on dates. What am I doing wrong? What does figuring it out even mean to a male? Am I the only female that this happens to? Is there any way I can prevent this? I dont think I came on as too needy, and all of these men were at least two years my senior. How can I not scare them away when they personally hang out with me?