i have a friend.i like him very much.he likes me too but i am not satisfied with his care and affection towards me.i want him to talk to me and interact with me but he never does it.i am scared whether i will loose him.i want him and his friendship.What should i do
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You can't change who he is. Some people are not great talkers. Some are more affectionate than others. This guy may never be able to give you what you need from a friendship on an emotional level. That does not mean he does not care about you, he is just the kind of person not given to being overly affectionate and so on. I think if you are waiting for him to change, you will be waiting forever.
You are the one with the decision to make not the other way around. You must decided whether this is enough for you and if you stay, will you ever by truly satisfied and happy with limited interaction, lack of affection and so on, Be really brutal and honest with yourself. Don't think that you will be OK with it when you know you won't really. If you are not satisfied now, can you see yourself being satisfied in 6 months or a years time?
Don't be scared to admit the truth to yourself. You are scared of losing him but there are aspects of this friendship that you haven't got and never will have with him. So you are not losing a friendship that was made in heaven rather a friendship that is wonderful but will never be enough.
If you stay know that it will never be on your terms. Perhaps this man, as wonderful as he is, is not the one for you after all. The end of a friendship is always sad but to stay when you know it can never make you really happy will be an injustice to you both.
In the end the question you must answer is: "Can I be happy if I settle for second best"?