My mom keeps threatening to beat me and kick me out. I'm 19 and am currently working on moving out. But she says that I and my brothers are abusing her when we don't do the dishes. She tells me I'm not her real child and that I should be a prostitute because I'm not good for anything. She tells me I'm fat and lazy. This has been going on since I can remember. I'm just curious to see if this would be considered abuse.
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She is abusing you, you are not abusing her, if this is the truth of course. It depends on the details. If your house is a horrendous mess and you don't do anything but play video games and mooch off of her money, then yes, that's dysfunction on your part. However, physical and mental abuses on her part (i.e the threats) are more mental than they are physical, since they haven't progressed to physical yet as it seems from your minimal information, in which case, you could not call the police or really do anything until and if she lays her hands on you.
OK, for example today I worked from 7 in the morning until noon, went out to lunch with my sister-in-law and then when I got home I did the things she had asked me to do. One of those was to dry the towels, so I put them in the drier when I saw that she wanted it done and noticed that the drier hadn't heated up at all for some reason. So I told her and restarted it whatever and it was working. But because it hadn't worked the first time they were still a little damp when she got home. This turned into how I'm not really her child (I'm adopted, was before I was a year old), how she's going to beat me if I don't clean the entire house within an hour, how I have to pay her 500 dollars by tomorrow or she'll kick me out, and when I told her that that was nearly impossible she told me I'm useless and don't deserve to be alive.