I'm super lonely. I don't have anyone that I can call my true friend. I am pretty shy as well, so I can't meet new people either. I don't really know how to meet new people to be honest. I wait for people to approach me first and that usually doesn't happen. I don't know what to do. I can't change my personality. I can't just overcome my shyness and approach to them first. I'm in a hopeless situation... I feel so alone.
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Personaly, having a pet is the best friend you could ever have, like a Bird. Dog or Cat. If you want friends though, if you are a teen living with your parents you could have them set you up with one of their friends children. I know how ya feel, Im socialy akward and am pretty darn shy, but im a loner so I don't need human friends. I recomend getting a pet to bring down the lonlieness a bit.
It is important to remember that people care more than they show and that when you feel lonely you need to look forward. There is always an end in sight. You need to get out there and try to be social even if it doesn't feel right at first because it is the only way you get better. Try approaching someone else who is shy or go to a club you are interested in because that reduces the tension.
To make friends, you need to have shared interests. What do you like to do? Do you like video games? Do you like movies? Are you a religious person? Whatever you like and are interested in, find other people with the same interest and you can bond over that.If you're a religious person, go to church or a temple or whatever and your shared faith will bond you.Making friends is hard for some people, but the important thing to remember is that you can't make friends if you avoid group activities.
The first thing I want to say is that you're never alone. When we feel lonely, we are often hard on ourselves. We begin to (falsely) picture ourselves as "social losers" who live on the outside of "everybody else." But that's not true at all. In fact, most people struggle with feelings of loneliness at some point or another.
Also, please don't believe the myth that some people just can't succeed socially. You can! There are best practices you can learn to help you make and keep friends which is beneficial to your well being. The sidebar of ToMakeFriends.Com is a great place to start for how tos on how to build your social network and support system.