I have been having bad experiences with a group of people. I always feel I have to be drunk to tolerate them. Someone always says something to hurt my feelings when I'm with them. How will I get away? I'm worried I'll get tempted to go back as we all need friends and need people to be around. Also how will I handle them when I see them? I don't want to be rude but just somehow get away?
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That's a very good question , i know how it feels simply because i've been in the same situation before , i would advise you to first before leaving them you should find other people that you are okay to hang around with , because like you said, no one likes to be alone , then if they ask you why you left you can simply say that you like hanging around/spending time with other different people instead of sticking around with the same crowd , however in my situation i took the courage to simply speak up about what was bothering me , and if they are truly your friends they would understand and change their ways so that it doesn't affect you . however if they don't change then i think its best if you be brave and walk away and value yourself and know how you should be treated and spare yourself from stress and drama. hopefully this helped :-)
I know exactly what you feelin'.
I'm a nice person (I don't want to be,but I am)
There were some people I was so nice to them and they still hurt me,they were talking trash about me without any reason,
and what did I do?
nothing,I still said nothing bad about them because I didn't want to be like them.
it's more hurtful when they hate you without any reason but you're way better than them,the best thing you can do is to not to be like them,ignore them,like they don't exist and they will be erased from the existence of your world,
You don't have to pretend you like them,don't be nice to them if they're not nice to you.
Promote what you love,don't bash what you hate.
In truth, the pressure to “follow after the crowd” can affect us at almost any time and it can be very difficult to resist.
Humans are gregarious by nature, and this is a good thing. The Bible says that “one isolating himself will seek his own selfish longing” and will even disregard practical wisdom. (Proverbs 18:1) However, we should choose our associates wisely, for they can exert a powerful influence on us. The one walking with the wise will become wise, But the one who has dealings with the stupid will fare badly Proverb 13:20. The way the world is today we must choose our associates wisely. You could even try to defend them they are not so bad. Stop! if you have to intoxicate yourself to put up with them that is sad.
Many people such as yourself have ended in jail or prison associating with people who are bad influence. We all want to fit in but for our safety and happiness we should associate with people who do not look just for their own interest. If you can find just one associate to spend time with is all you need and get to know their friends and so it goes. Many people such as yourself have problems with low self esteem usually stems from childhood or other negative situations. We will never meet perfect associates but I had to realized myself that the people i was associating with i really had very little in common with them. I put up with the crowd until I felt as if I was just a spectator. I felt lonely even though I was with them. It took time and bad experiences with them before I moved away from them and slowly found people i could find joy being around. Happy to say I am with a large crowd of genuine people.
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