I'm William.. I'm 17... Not that it matters but whatever.. I want some new friends... The few friends I have are what you would call iffy friends.. They are your friends IF blah blah blah... I want some good friends that I actually fit in with.. And like an idiot I asked them how to make friends and expected they would have an answer. They said, "Just go talk to people." But it's not that simple for me.. If I go try to talk to someone I don't know... My brain just shuts off.. I break down.. It's like a computer process lol Brain.exe has stopped working. I do better when people talk to me first, however, I'm still shy... I'm not going to tell you my life story... I've just developed a fear of meeting people, I guess.. Anyway, If any of you would be so kind as to give me some tips etc. on how to make friends in these circumstances, I would be very grateful.
How to make friends with extreme shyness etc?
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- 3+ months ago by WilliamTh...
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- friend, loneliness, shy, friends
Answers (7)
The best way to start a friendship when you're shy is to text or Facebook someone and get to know them that wat first. Another thing you could do is join a club or group that does something you enjoy so you could meet people with the same interests. And don't be afraid to just say hi, more people want friends than just you!
I used to be very shy when I was younger and only started to change when I started working and moved out of my parents' house. Actually, I would not start a friendship over the internet. In my opinion you need to meet a person to actually get a feel for who they are and whether you could become friends. I know this is difficult when you are shy as it is hard to approach people by yourself. How about you get start by joining a club or organisation dealing with something you are truly interested in? It can be a sports club, the Red Cross (they have a special young people group in most countries) or even a course at some privat education center you are interested in. There you will meet people who have the same interests as you. That gives you something to talk about with them without having to worry whether you might be bothering them. It also gives you a chance to practice your people skills. Don't be upset if you sometimes don't have a good comeback or feel like you messed up a conversation. Mostly we are too hard on ourselves and perceive these things as much more serious than the people we talked to. It might cost you some effort to do it, but I am sure you will meet a lot of nice people who would like to become your friends!
Hi William, I'm Mars Bar. Guess who gave me that nick name? The bubbliest girl you would ever meet, and she is my best of best friends after almost 5 years. I'm -16 years old, and I used to be the shyest girl. I would walk through the halls with my head down and try not to make eye contact. I understand wanting to make friends, but Brain.exe has stopped working. That still happens to me, but some times the biggest change to your life takes 30 seconds of pure bravery. Challenge yourself to talk to one interesting looking person and just walk up and say "Hi. I'm WIlliam (or nickname(whatever you prefer to be called)), what's you're name?" or "Hey, what are you doing?' "mind if I sit here?" It only takes a few seconds.
Aly (my best of best friends) was THE shyest girl, but on orientation day, her older brother challenged her to introduce herself to five completely different looking people. She introduced herself to me, the shy one, my friend Ashley, the sporty one, Matilda, the over confident one, and Jessica, the nerd. She is still friends with all those girls to this day. Anyway, the point is, that if you want to make friends, you only need to take a deep cleansing breath, and introduce yourself. You should find that all the fear is just your mind playing tricks on you. (Especially if it's a cute girl;)) Just remember. 30 seconds of pure bravery.
William, I think the fact that you came here seeking advice is a great sign because it shows you have self-awareness and want to grow as a person. Those are both important steps to building friendships you can feel good about. There are many tips, or I might call them "best practices," that will help you learn to make and keep friends who treat you well. For example, people often think their friends must have something in common, but often times what is more important than "things in common" is that people interact with you repeatedly so you become familiar to them. There are many more tips and how tos in the sidebar at ToMakeFriends.Com that you might find helpful.
Bruh just don't be a puss and talk to people. i used to be sacred all the time but i grew a pair and stopped giving a shit. Be a big boy and just stunt on these hoes w preme money. These mf cant touch you if you rolling racks from rippin kids and fu**in with the vision. Get money get hoes then get bros but always be bros over hoes.
tbh like your "terrible" friends said just go talk to people. I used and still am a little bit shy like i can barely talk to people however. You gotta fix that mentally and physically you can't ask us on "tips" because there are no tips just talk to people and you're considered one of their friends. Easy and simple like that. Also btw you're 17 and you don't know how to make friends. Like not trying to be rude or anything but that's a skill we all learned when we were at least 5. So anyway just talk to people and everything will be ok. (Btw sorry if something i said in this response was rude i didn't mean for it to be)