I am 27 years and a few months old. I have an IT engineer degree and currently I have been working with Helpdesk support for 10 months, which is my first work experience. I feel that I am working in something that doesn't suit my aspirations nor the value of the degree that I obtained, but I was forced to do so by virtue of the fact that I was only studying for the sake of obtaining the certificate and didn't develop myself technically and didn't have sufficient knowledge of the labor market and its requirements.
I don't like the country in which I live and I don't see that I can fulfill my ambitions and dreams in it. Also, by virtue of the prevailing mentality and way of living that doesn't suit me. My dream is to travel and leave the country and the field in which I specialize will entitle me to that, but I don't have the sufficient experience and the necessary competence at present. Every day after returning from work I try to improve my technical skills (I take courses in web and mobile development). The problem is that I haven't made any progress in any area that I am trying to focus on, and I don't find enough enthusiasm to achieve my goals. I feel that my daily life consumes my time and keeps me away from my ambitions. I started to fuse into the details of my daily life, as it takes a large part of my thinking. I feel that I am focused with trivialities instead of my dreams.
How to focus on my ambitions and dreams instead of the details of my daily life and trivialities?
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- 3+ months ago by mkanzari
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Answers (2)
"Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans." - John lennon.
You're quite right. One's first job is oft menial, unsuitable to one's skillset, mentally and / or physically draining and low pay. That is why such jobs are reserved for neophytes of the business world. Resent it, yes, but be not discouraged by the appearance of stalling. All experience is valuable in some way when one learns from it, though it may sound more impressive when gained at a younger age.
Your potential for employment stems not merely from technical skills, unless you're at the top 5-10% of your class; nay, your connections and ability to make an impression are much more than 50% of getting in. You still can get there, but it'll take more time till people come to trust your skills.
Feeling out of place, I can relate to that as an introvert in an extroverts' nation. Struggled with it for many years, as I hadn't the confidence to just start over; until realising that whilst the choice may be decided one way (and I'm not saying you shouldn't move - just be aware of how to do that and what it entails), it doesn't mean you can't choose to be engaged elsewhere - for me it's studying japanese culture and language, for most people it's frequent vacations, or potentially befriending more agreeable persons.
I'm not sure what you define as "progress in the area", but getting educated isn't a waste of time. Perhaps what you need is the opportunity to practice, which might be easier when it's your job, yet commonly insights can be applied to the everyday life, or otherwise find projects in subjects of intrigue if that's more motivating.
There's this thing:
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It is perhaps a small comfort knowing you're not alone in the boat. However, it offers some measure of the limitations over your stride length. Whilst you won't be able to achieve everything, choosing a specific and well defined target will at least help clarifying how far you've strayed.
The only way to focus on ambitions, dreams rather than to be caught in the trivialities of life is to transcend the mind. The mind is a monkey, it produces up to fifty thoughts a minute, this is about fifty thousand thoughts a day. As long as we are slaves of the mind, we cannot move forward, nor can we move forward with dreams or ambitions. Neither can we move forward on the spiritual path to realize the Truth that we are not this body, the mind and ego, we are the Divine Soul. If we truly want to live a life of bliss, of joy, of peace we must kill the mind before the mind kills us. People don't understand the difference between the mind and the intellect - the mind is a thought factory that produces thoughts. The intellect discriminates the right thoughts from the wrong thoughts. Therefore the intellect is important, we must use the intellect to control the mind to live our life.