For starters, this is not an attention-post. I am looking for REAL answers, preferably from females who have had a similar experience as mine.
I am a 20-year-old female who would be considered by the majority to be "unattractive." I do have some self-esteem issues, but probably less than most people. I do know that there's no one definition for what is and isn't attractive, but I'm also smart enough to be aware of my own not-so-great looks.
I do take very good care of the appearance that I have - I pluck my eyebrows, take care of blemishes, etc. I do occasionally wear make-up, but having been in a relationship for five years (and my fiancé is not a fan of cosmetics), I don't see much reason to use it very often. That, and make-up doesn't help me much - it can't cover a huge nose, sharp jawline, small eyes and large forehead (starting to see what I mean here?). Though, I do know of eyeliner/eyeshadow techniques that do make my eyes look a little bigger and brighter. As for my hair, it is stick-straight thin, which may sound like every girl's dream, but it isn't - bobby pins won't even stay in my hair, let alone me trying to style it. Not even the strongest curlers and mousse can give my hair volume or shape. Finally, I'm not overweight, but I am short, and my figure has no curves whatsoever. Plastic surgery is not an option I am willing to consider.
My best friend of nearly seven years is an absolute BOMBSHELL and always has been. Spending time with her, especially in public, is often painful for me because I do get envious of all the stares and looks she gets. I adore my friend, but I am sometimes deterred from going out with her for this reason.
And a final bit of background: my fiancé and I have recently been having a lot of problems with our sex life, and while he says that he is still very attracted to me, I have a feeling that my looks do in fact have something to do with it (I know he isn't cheating and to my knowledge he has no health issues or personal issues right now that would meddle with his drive).
So, in conclusion: how can I feel more attractive and feel better about myself? I know that low self-esteem is a mood killer in and outside of the bedroom, for both parties, which is exactly why I want to try and boost my confidence. Can anyone suggest anything I can possibly do that would improve my appearance/make me feel good about the way I look?