My dad gets mad a lot but I don't wanna call the cops because I still love him. Im only 13 years old and he hits me on the head where it doesnt make any bruises. He also threatens to divorce my mom and leave our family, saying that he doesn't want me as his daughter. But sometimes, he can be so nice and I just wish that I could have that nice dad all the time. Im asian and hes asian so hes rlly strict. He only lets me use my phone for 30 minutes per day and I feel left out because my friends get to use their phones whenever they want. He also gets REALLY mad when I say little white lies that dont even do any harm. What do I do?
How to deal with an aggressive dad?
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- 3+ months ago by shawnisbae
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- love, dad, deal, child abuse
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Yo, Asian to asian you gotta understand that he's only like this cause he's had a rough childhood and he wants you to succeed in more than him in life. Take it from me. When i was 13 my parents were both very strict, if i didn't tell them where i was or what i was doing i was beaten. As a young adult now i learn to just follow the rules, and see where it takes me. I was always the stubborn one in my family and never listened but as i grew up I've seen thing and been through many things. Parents will do honestly anything to get their kids in line and honestly your dad may threaten you and your mom but he only does it to push you further than you are now. I understand your situation only cause i've ben in it myself and i wanna help by saying even if you love him, you gotta communicate with him. let him know your struggles and your strong points in life, the more you let him hit you is the more he thinks you don't understand. Take him out for a coffee and do a one on one talk with him and see where that takes you cause you'll never know what you get/know out of it.
Ok I understand that I may be at a disadvantage, mainly because I did not culturally grow up the same. That being said, having strict parents is sometimes a good thing because they push you to be better than how they grew up. However, it is not ok for your dad to hit you on the head nor is it ok for him to threaten to leave your mom and your family. You may want to talk to a consoling professional or maybe an adult at school who you trust. As for the little whit lies, they are usually not harmless because they can grow into bigger lies. He's trying to prepare you for real life on that part.