Any tips on how to improve self esteem? I'm receiving counselling but is there anything else I could try/ do? A lot of people have been saying things to me lately and it's really effecting me. I think it's easier to say get over it or don't let them get to you when some of the stuff that was said was extremely hurtful. Any advice?
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It is better to give than to receive. You need to do things for people. Self-esteem, the ability to like yourself, only comes after you've done something that makes you likable. You can't bs yourself. No matter what you tell yourself or what slogans you memorize about how everyone is special, you'll think of yourself as special when you do something special. If you think you're special when you haven't done something special, you're not healthy and well-balanced; you're a narcissist, disconnected from reality. Educators who try to instill "self esteem" in children are teaching them to disconnect from reality.
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You have a therapist and I would not offer advice when you have a professional. That's why you go! What's the point of going if you aren't making use of the the professionals training and knowledge? If you don't do that then you aren't in therapy you are just playing games.
Why do you hang around people who say bad things.
Why do you care what they say. They are only hurtful if you allow them to be.
Start telling the therapist!
There are two ways to develop self esteem. In the material world you develop self esteem by respecting yourself and telling yourself that you have love for yourself, value for yourself, but this is a very shallow self-esteem. The highest self-esteem is to realize that we are not the body and mind, we are the Divine Soul. We are the temple of God. When we realize this Truth then our self-esteem grows to the skies because then we realize we are not just an ordinary body made up of skin and bone, we are not the mind that wanders, we are the Divine Soul. This is what will develop our self-esteem.