I've been dating this girl for 5 years now. We haven't really lived close to each other for most of that time and have never really spent more than a couple of weeks together in one go.
However, we've taken an extended holiday around Europe and I'm realising that we just don't have all that much in common beyond acting (we're both trained actors and like going to the theatre).
I won't go into all the details but aspects of her personality that I hadn't really noticed before are starting to become annoying to me and I feel like I spend more time rolling my eyes and muttering under my breath than I do just enjoying her company.
I think we're also at different points in our lives (a bit cliché but still true) which doesn't really help.
The biggest problem is that we're still on the holiday. She's going home in a few weeks but I still want to see a few places before I go home. I might even find some work and stick around for longer.
So here's my conundrum: so I break it off before she leaves for home, after she leaves but before I do, or after I get home as well (Bearing in mind that it could be anything from 2 weeks to 6 months after her)?
How to break off a long term relationship?
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- 3+ months ago by thenewguy
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- girl, dating, relationship, girls, relationships
Answers (2)
Well the truth is you can get her bye webcam or send her a letter you dont ant to upsett her right, perhaps it would be easier to get someone in her country to explain to her it can be anyone but i would only choose anyone that you trust the most cheapest way to break up with her is send her some chocolates with a message sort os sayint this "Im Sorry im breaking up with you the sight makes me cry we have not seen eachother for a while but we cant be apart so i think we have to move on we both need to battle the outsiders and remember ourselves from the insides i love you never change and dont let any one try to make you be someone you dont want to be i have loved you for the years we have known eachother we can still be able to use webcam and i wish you good luck im sorry im not explaining this well but goodbye i will always love you and im sorry if i have broken your heart it is verry delicate if you need me im always here for you"
The best answer is in what you have already written. You know how you felt in the beginning and now how you feel by being around her. Women do not like cheesy breakups like via texting or over the phone, talking in person is the best bet and although this may hurt both of you or just her, be HONEST! Tell her how you are feeling and that you really can not help how you feel and that there may be someone out there better for both of you. Tell her you don't want to hurt her, but the relationship is just not going to work out and hope that she takes it well. Do not lie, or be fake, it's the worst way to be when ending a relationship. Sit her down in a private, calm setting NOT PUBLIC and tell her how you feel and tell her it's important to you that you two talk through this and hopeful it will work out to you two breaking up and becoming good friends.
Even though you two are on Holiday together I think it would be wise to sit her down and talk to her, it might not be the best time, but it will work out for the best. And maybe after talking it all out you two can still possibly share the rest of the holiday together....
Thanks Jewel.
The problem I have isn't so much how to do the breakup. The issue is that we're on holiday, sharing a room and doing stuff together. She leaves in a few weeks but I'm staying for a bit longer. So should I break up with her now and offer to find somewhere else to stay and potentially ruin the last few weeks of her holiday. Just before she leaves for home. After she leaves (although that would probably mean a video call break up). Or when I get home?