I've been in this situation for a while,and this question crosses my mind alot.People say that since we aren't in our 20's,it's probably not love and just a crush or infatuation but I disagree because I believe that love can occur at anytime,any place and any age.
This question is a question which is the most difficult for me,I like solving my own problems but this once I need some one else's help.I was hoping some one experienced could give sensible advice.
Thankyou. :)
How does a person tell the difference between Love & Infatuation?
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*** How Do I Know if It’s Real Love?
INFATUATION → What you feel
Infatuation feels like love. In fact, love includes romantic feelings. But the basis for each is entirely different. Infatuation stems from a superficial reaction to surface qualities. Also, it is blind to the other person’s weaknesses and exaggerates his or her strengths. As a result, infatuation is about as stable as a castle made of sand.
LOVE → What you know
Love is based on a well-rounded knowledge of a person’s strengths and weaknesses. It’s hardly surprising, then, that the Bible describes love as much more than a feeling. It states that love is, among other things, “long-suffering and kind. . . . It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4, 7, 8) And love makes a person act in these ways based on knowledge—not on credulity or ignorance.
*** Worksheet
Is It Love or Is It Infatuation?
Try to guess the missing word in the statements quoted below. Fill in the blanks with either the word love or the word infatuation.
1. “․․․․․ is blind and it likes to stay that way. It doesn’t like to look at reality.”
2. “If I have to change my personality when I’m around a girl I’m attracted to, that’s ․․․․․.”
3. “Something may annoy you about the person. But if it’s ․․․․․, you still want to be with the person and work through the problem.”
4. “With ․․․․․, the only things you let yourself consider are the things you have in common.”
5. “When it’s ․․․․․, you don’t try to hide who you are.”
6. “․․․․․ is a selfish form of getting what you want—perhaps just to say you have a boyfriend.”
7. “․․․․․ recognizes the faults and quirks and yet can still live with those things.”
8. “When it’s ․․․․․, you can’t define why you feel attracted—you just are.”
9. “With ․․․․․, the other person can do no wrong.”
10. “When it’s ․․․․․, you don’t notice other members of the opposite sex the way you used to, because you feel a sense of loyalty.”
Answers: Infatuation: 1, 2, 4, 6, 8, 9. Love: 3, 5, 7, 10.
i give you a simple explanation but it doesn't mean its hundred percent right. If you love a person think of a reason why you love him if you can give a hundreds of reason or even just one reason why you love that person then what you feel is not love. Because when you truly love a person there is no reason you love him or her as whole
Thankyou SO much. :)
It's funny how I never tend to notice these things.The reply helped,Thanks once again.