I read a lot of romance novels and they all have one thing in common...when they find "the one" they both seem to have a spark upon first seeing each other, a longing desire, nervous, stuttering, a “shock” when their skin brushes, not being able to see anyone else in the room or simply never feeling that way with anyone before etc. as someone that has been married and divorced I can’t help but feel that it is different in reality, so how do you know?
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Love story novels are written to sell lots of books to naive romantics who want happy little stories wrapped up with a pretty bow which earns the author big bucks and a movie option.
They are in no way based on reality. The poverty stricken governess always wins the heart of the mysterious rich bachelor.
In reality people make poor decisions, rash decisions, inexperienced choices, and wind up miserable forever, divorced several times, in abusive relationships etc etc etc.
On occasion two people meet and the vibes are magical and they KNOW. Generally, its a gradual thing.
What you hope to do is set your standards high keep them, date and learn what you like or dislike in your partner which tells you what are must haves, what are deal breakers and what are not really that big of a deal, are negotiable, or are a compromise and that knowledge is what tells your heart that your significant other is nice, wonderful, awesome, and THE ONE the more you get to know them.
That's how it works in reality.