I am 11 and the feelings I have for a guy in my class are the feelings my friends feel about people of the opposite sex! I'm not sure whats going on! Am I gay? straight? bi? Help! Some of my friends know, majority of them are girls, because I can trust them and I feel more "connected"! I need answers!
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dear confusion,
11 or 12 is the age most people start to feel love for others.... it's normal. NO you are not gay, you are straight, but at the beginning, many people develop feelings toward people of the same sex. you will overcome this gradually, over time. Do not let it take control of you, because otherwise there will always be this huge internal war in your mind when you look at a same sex member, who you find sexy.
All the Best!
your not gay trust me!
This is not so unusual. Boys are discovering their sexuality at an earlier age. It may very well be that you are 'gay.' But not necessarily so, give yourself every chance to have a heterosexual life.
Gays often relate better with females, because their is no lust of the flesh to get in the way.
I felt my first crush on the neighbor boy at about 9, but never really realized what it was until I was 14 or 15. Never came out until I was 31. lol.
But if I do turn out to be gay, How will I know?