How do you get stepkids to like you?

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I don't like kid's activities. I hate cartoons and I hate how nonsensical their conversations are and we end up arguing because nothing they say is practical matures or serious. I hate the outdoors or humor .They ignore my lectures and play constant practical jokes on me and compare me to the in laws whom I don't get along with.
 I am on a strict no sugar  gluten free vegan diet so it is hard to find food options I can eat. I really don't like going places or doing anything fun . Because fun does not interest me.Most people insult my intelligence, so it is impossible to make friends

.My fianc&eacute; wants me to lighten up and learn how to smile  but I don't know how .In my family we sat on the call all day and were not allowed to fidget or talk or got smacked and lectured.I tried read that book about winning friends and influencing people but it made no sense.

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You have to make the effort, or they'll resent you.

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Wow, I don't like you either. How did you ever get a fiance when you are so grumpy? 

You get kids to like you by acting like an adult. You don't scold them for acting like kids. Ordinarily you learn these behaviors by growing up with people who behave that way. 

You need a personality transplant. Get into local theater or acting classes at the community college so you can learn to act like a normal person.

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It's good that you've at least tried to read it. Pray tell, how far did you get ere determining it's nonsensical? I find it's a tad on the didactic side; nonetheless it's a composition of analyses conducted by sociable to antisocial folk over many years, so even if it doesn't add up it's possible to achieve a purpose by following the guidelines - and you probably have good self discipline to do so - since people tend to be irrational, children moreso. They will abide by rules when the reasoning appeals to them.

I didn't mean to suggest a change in your lifestyle. Meseems you're brimming with animosity for most aspects of existence, but that wouldn't be "curable" by someone's whim - you'd have to be quite determined to seek a different path. Offered a method which might improve the results you've been getting.

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there are actually loads of ways if you actually listen to the kids. kids are smarter then they appear so the conversations might be interesting when you actually pay attention start off with asking about how there day was right now you seem like you dont have a lot in common with the kids. so what about reading introduce them to your favorite books and ask them what their favorite books are contemplate reading them stories from your books. make your cooking interactive have the kids help with cooking a gluten free vegan diet. overall just spend time with them talk about your interests and listen to theirs.

How do you get stepkids to like you?

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