How do I turn this girl down?

Question

Don't get me wrong, she's very attractive and a great person and I have liked her before (but not now), but I'm 90% sure she has a drinking problem. Because of my religion, I will not date anyone with big "moral issues", and for other reasons we aren't exactly the perfect match. Also, she only likes me and isn't practically in love, I'm pretty sure so she's not gonna change herself if I tried to get her to.

Even if she didn't have a drinking problem, things wouldn't work out. I am not considering dating her at all FYI.

Also, when I say "drinking problem" it wouldn't be serious by the average person's standards. It's just I consider any alcohol to be a issue. And were both under the legal age to drink (we're both 17).

I WILL NOT use the silent treatment or any form of it. I have a reputation of being a little cold when it comes to girls and would like to change that. I would like to be polite. I don't want to come off rudely basically saying "CHANGE".

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Be Honest. Ask to be just friends. Etc.

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Balance honesty with tactfulness. suitors. If necessary, state &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry, but I&rsquo;m really not interested in you in that way right now.&rdquo; Proverbs 12:18 states: &ldquo;There exists the one speaking thoughtlessly as with the stabs of a sword.&rdquo; While being forthright is important, the Bible says that our utterances must be &ldquo;with graciousness, seasoned with salt.&rdquo;&mdash;Colossians 4:6. The apostle Paul urged Christians to &ldquo;speak truth&rdquo; with one another. (Ephesians 4:25) Doing so may be hard, but it may help you both to move on with your lives.

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Be upront and tell her that she has a drinking problem. Then she'll realize you've also rejected any future advances from her and you've scolded her.

How do I turn this girl down?

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