I'm 19, in college, have a decent paying job. I feel I am ready to move out of my house and start learning how to take care of myself. My parents are very clingy and strict, and they've always had this idea that I would live with them until i'm 30 or out of college (which is about 30) but I feel like I am ready to leave but I don't know how to tell them I am without possibly getting into a heated argument. I would like some answers or suggestions to make my conversation run smoother and calmer.
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Living in a dorm, sharing an apt with other students or renting a place by yourself? You better make sure you can afford a place on your salary. Have you run a budget based on your take home salary?
Lodging, utilities, cable tv, cell phone, groceries, clothes, health insurance, transportation, recreation etc.
Because if you move out and find you can't make it on your own and want to move back home you might run into a problem. They may be so angry they say no. Or, they may be thrilled but they will even be more restrictive than ever. So you better make darn sure you can afford to do it.
You are legally an adult if you live in the US and you do not need their permission to move. I'd just rent my place and tell them my two week move out date if you anticipate a battle. Restrictive parents who want to control are not going to listen to well thought out common sense or logic. Just expect the worst and if they handle it well then its a gift but if not you just do what you planned and pack your boxes and don't argue just let them throw a hissy fit about it and ignore it. Expecting them to be gracious is not wise.
Good luck! Do your budget...not at home so they see what you are doing!