Over 3 months ago, my ex and I rekindled after separating for almost 3yrs but met in 2005 and were friends. We share a 2yr old son together but went our separate ways bc he wasn't ready to be responsible for a child therefore leaving me to be a single mother. Though he came around after our son was born, he was inconnsistent and barely stuck around for 6 months. Although his family really liked me and loved our son, he resented us. Having a new gf also made the choice to disappear easier. Well, he lost the gf after a year, contacted me and has been doing everything to right his wrong. Not only is he crazy about his son, our relationship is better than ever and have we've gotten closer. My biggest issue is that I recently found out that I contracted herpes from the last guy I dated (the first guy I dated since conceiving my son). Now that I'm seeing my son's father again, I have to tell him and don't know how. Though I've done nothing wrong, I'm afraid that I'll be judged or he'll pull back after all the progress we've made. He's been really open and honest about so much and have asked me for nothing. He's told me how much respect he now has for me and feels like we're getting to know eachother all over again. I don't want him to look at me differently. We also have a child together... What do I do? I have forgiven him for his wrong and I just don't know if we could get through this obstacle given everything else we've gone through.
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I think you have to sit him down and just be honest about it, and about what the implications are. There is no way of really hiding it and he'd be rightfully angry if you infected him (because you were afraid to tell him).
Good luck, though! I hope it works out for you.