Hi, I'm a mother of a fifteen year old girl who is totally self-conscious about her looks and weight. Yet, i don't understand why? My daughter is 5'5 and 105 pounds, she's the only skinny person in our family. Not only that but she's extremely beautiful! When I tell her she looks pretty she shakes her head and says, "you're only obligated to say that because you're my mom." My daughter used to have confidence, she used to have a lot of friends, but now all she does is sit in her room, study, and watch cheesy sitcoms and soap operas! She said if she felt better about herself she'd go out and hang out with her friends. How do I helo her push all these issues aside and make her feel confident?
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Wait until she is 16 and then she will worry about something totally different. I bought my 16 yo daughter solid gold ear rings and she never wore them because she was a "winter person".
It might help if you drag her to a church on Wednesday evening. Every church has something different, so if she doesn't like one, you can go to a different one. You don't have to believe anything. I happen to know that Mormon churches usually have a teen dance every Wednesday evening.
As a 16 year old girl myself I have been through this all before the only way for her to become most confident is by believing that she is, its almost tricking herself into it, no matter how much you tell her she is beautiful she won't believe it, it needs to come from herself.