My best friend has said to another, that she has to work, & can't take time of work, but she would if she could. She took 1 day off to go shopping with a former workfriend(it was my friend's birthday)), is taking 2 days off when her son visits, & another day off for an out of town road trip. I may need someone to go with me to the hospital to drive me home & stay with me because I'll be sedated. I'm hurt to think my friend wouldn't help me in this situation. She said to a mutual friend "I have to work, & can't take time off or I would" Say what!? She certainly CAN, & the days she has booked won't use up all the days. I'm feeling her booking days off are selective.
How do I speak with her about this?
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- 3+ months ago by chatterbox
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I feel hurt that my friend wouldn't help me in this situation but rather would take time off for something social instead.
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It might but she has all kinds of ideas why she can't or won't i would speak to her let her know how you feel.
Thanks. She phoned me last night just to see how I was, but sensed there was something that was bothering me, or I wasn't feeling totally well. I denied there was really anything, & simply said that there was something bothering me, but it would sort itself out. She also went on to say that if I wanted to talk, she was 'there'., but she can
get defensive over the simplest of things at times, & the last thing I want at this stage of the game is to have an argument with her over something that hasn't happened yet. As mentioned, I'm upset at the very idea that she doesn't seem to want to help me if I need it. Taking time of work for social things is one thing, helping a friend is another. Any other comment? I do appreciate your help.
I agree the situation is touchy but still down the road talk about it sounds like she may be feeling guilty
Hi. No, I don't think she's feeling guilty because she doesn't know what's bothering me.
I just may wait to see what happens, then if all works out, I might not say anything, but if what I suspect does come true, then she'll know for sure. You can't tell one person that you're taking days off for this/that, then make a comment to someone else that "I have to work, I can't take time off"(referring to my situation). Yes, this is what happened. She made that statement to her b/f who is a good friend of mine. Actually, I'm glad he did tell me, because if it happens, I'll be devastated to think she's not the friend I always thought she was. Comment?
Does this answer suggest that possibly my friend doesn't want to help me?