There's a kid at my school. I'd prefer not to say what grade this is, or where, for the sake of my privacy. He makes weird faces like a kindergartener, he yells in class, he steals pens. He's the kind of guy who eats pencil erasers and sticks the graphite through the top layer of his skin. I catch him trying to flirt with me. He's made physical contact with several people in the three years he's been around. And people tent to group him and I because "Oh, she's about the most patient girl here. I don't want to deal with him." It's not shipping or anything, but for three years I've been getting more and more frustrated. I want to tell him, in a *very* polite and smart-sounding way that he's got problems and he needs to deal with them somewhere else. Please... If he recognizes what I'm telling him he'll probably accuse me of verbal assault.
How do I politely tell somebody that they've got problems?
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- 3+ months ago by Anonymous
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- school, face, kid, weird, sake, problem, kids, schools, grade, privacy, grades
Added 3+ months ago:
If it's okay, I need answers by March 2nd, 7:30 central time 2018. I know that probably won't happen.
Answers (5)
Back off! The kid may have psychological issues or is austistic or something. He is doing nothing to you to warrant a bullying attitude.
If he has issues you report him to the school nurse and the principal and you let them deal with him. It's not your place to diagnose him and verbally attack him.
Hi, well I would be worried about your safety if he does really strange things like you mentioned, I think maybe you should tell a teacher anonymously or try to get someone of authority involved to keep a close eye on him/ provide any help he may need.. he shouldn't be allowed to carry on like that and you continue to suffer.
Mircat: SEE how about giving someone some actual advice instead of condescending them, what so this person should just "back off" and not in any way try to get this guy some help while he suffers mentally and the poster suffers because of it?
I am SO fed up with you and your passive-aggressive answers, you did the same to my question without any real help and it sucked, how about you "back off" and find another hobby aside from answering people's questions, you lack empathy and sound miserable along with that guy agreeing to your comment, I did a bit of digging and original poster, they are old, and miserable PLEASE take no notice of them.
It might be better to get an adult involved to try and observe the guy and see what action should be taken from there, might go more smoothly than trying to handle him yourself, he sounds like he has issues, hope it gets resolved for you poster.
I noticed mircat did suggest speaking to someone who could better help deal with a situation but to call you a bully and make other nasty comments whilst talking down to you isn't right, you're obviously fed up with the guy I can see that and just want something resolved, you don't deserve the way mircat talked to you, I'd get them banned if I could.. so fed up of that user's attitude.
Though various accusations of mental disorders, intellectual disabilities and 'orientation' ambiguity have been thrown around, I can assure you getting a rise out of people is a perfectly valid motivation ("Some men just want to watch the world burn").
If you believe obfuscating your judgement with delectably rich verbiage to be an effective strategy of deterrence, be prepared for disappointment.
Either assert your dominance in an area for which he cares, or wiggle your way out of association through the people who subscribe to logic.
Finally, would be remiss not to advise against excessive maturity, or pretence thereof. Laugh off the bs rather than maintain a mental tab of it all, you'll feel better.
How about you stop being a passive-aggressive bully, back off yourself and find another hobby as you can't ever seem to give an answer without talking down to someone with rude condescending remarks, how about that?