So we've been together for 5 years i took in her baby boy see him as my own. A year ago we had one together. I met her in a very dark time of my life if it wasn't for her pulling me out of the abyss i was in i would honestly be either dead or in prison. slowly we fell in love with everything was perfect, i moved in with her but i noticed her mother was krazy she extorted all of her children making them work while she lived the good life with their money. I brought her out of that mess but somehow my in law got into her mind again making her move back. Sure we had problems but always got over it. Since then I've broke my back over and over trying to please her but it seems as if its never good enough, she's always putting me last even the times I've gone into coma she never went to check on me maybe once wen i was discharged from the hospital, she claims she loves me but doesn't show it, one moment it looks like if we're doing great & the moment i mention something she doesn't want to talk about she blows me off for days claiming i pissed her off, i mean i love her to death but i cant go on being her little toy, iknow it's not healthy idk what to do can someone give me any advise please? Thank you in advance
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If she loves you she must show it if you want to get her attention just play are to get meaning dont talk to her (like call her) if she doesnt do it herself
or just tell her you love her and if she doenst reply just take your kid and go like she did with hers if she doesnt love you why should you
Love is like a poison that drop in a river and changes it taste . if she love you and you love her , then a change is expected to exist in both partner life. Regarding your little narration the mother in question is the ultimate rut of this problem. if you don't get her away from your relationship she will destroyed your matrimonial home . your wife need a serious counseling and you as well please visit or hire a counsellor for one on one and follow up guidance with proper monitoring.
you need some therapy the both of you, what you said is she cannot talk about the things that bother you, it has to change.
if you really love her and your child, you simply give her an ultimatum, don't just abandon them. tell, her you want to fix your relationship with the help of a professional or you will leave since you feel like you're put last and are not loved. If she really loves you she would do anything to fix the problem and it will get solved with some help trust me!!
whatever you do you do not have the luxury of putting yourself first, you're a father mate, your child should be priority number 1, 2 and 3. after that comes you.