So there's this girl I know. She and I have been friends for three years I think? Then the time came when I found myself developing feelings for her. After awhile, I confessed it through text(I know that sucks... Don't rub it in). She took it alright, but then the whole class started to find out and things started to get awkward between the two of us. Now, we can't even talk to each other anymore. I've made tons of mistakes and after all that's happened, it feels like we don't even know each other anymore. I don't know if she's afraid of the teases and stuff that people might say if we talked, or if she's just pissed and doesn't what shit to do with me anymore. I have a lot of good friends, but I often find myself thinking about and missing the friendship I had with her. The laughs, conversations and stuff like that.
Please take a few minutes to give me a good answer. I'll appreciate it.
How do I get that friendship back?
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- 3+ months ago by Tyger
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- girl, friend, feeling, found, year, back, friendship, girls, friends, years, time
Added 3+ months ago:
I'd like to express my greatest thanks and appreciation to everyone who posted answers for my question. Things are slowly getting better. We've exchanged a few words, just a few, but it's a work in progress and that's fine 'cause I'm willing to take it slowly but surely. Everyone in class is slowly starting to forget about my feelings for her so that might make it a bit easier to get to talk and have an actual long conversation with her again. This is probably because there's this other guy likes her... Ah well, let's let him take a shot at it and see what he can do. Anyway, things are starting to build back up to our friendship. And again, thank you to everyone who took some time to help out!
Responses (5)
Ok I am almost in the exact same spot except that I just never get to see the girl I like anymore. She doesn't like me in the way I like her. So I gave up on that and now I really miss our friend ship too. So you can try to tell her that she is an awesome friend and you really miss hanging out with her but at least the first time you hang out you should invite some other mutual friends so that its not just you and her cause that would make her feel awkward. Also if you got a girlfriend then she wouldn't feel like you still like her, but don't rush into a relationship, just if you have a crush on someone else maybe explore that. Anyway hope it helps.
Tell her that you didn't want to ruin your friendship and that you really want to be friends again. And if she doesn't want to then just let it go it's not your fault you started liking her. It happens a lot. Just tell her you really want things to go back to the way they were
Yeah it's true I never had any intention of ruining our friendship. I never even wanted to become her boyfriend because I knew that something terrible would happen to our frienship. But we haven't even started dating and already this happens. I never saw this coming.
Be very careful. While she's feeling vulnerable about how people are perceiving her, it becomes a bit of a minefield. One wrong move and you are sunk. I'd be casual in public but maintain a friendship in private (and keep it private, even to your best friends). Letting her know you understand her fears and are considering them is an attractive quality. If you boast about anything and she gets teased then you've let her down and there's very little way back from that.
Good luck! Hope it works out for you.
Yeah, thanks for the help, bro. After all the crap that's happened s far, I don't think I'll be crushing on someone else for a long time.