I broke up with my favourite boyfriend who I love so much. I left him but I'm hurting more.he cried a lot when I broke the news to him and said he can't handle it. He waslooking for true love and here I am breaking his heart... I had no other choice but to end things with him. He has two kids from two different ex in his pass. I'm only 19 and have no child and I can't accept this situation. He deserves someone who'll accept him and the things he did in the pass. I ended it with him because I had no other choice. How do I get over this guilt and hurt that I'm feeling? I love this guy a lot and wanted to make him my husband. But I want a husband whom we'll start with having kids together. I need some advice friends :(
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You did the right thing. He has 2 children with 2 baby mothers who will forever be in his life. You can't get over the hurt or guilt you need to find a new perspective. You are 19, no need to be a step mother of 2. You're young and beautiful and imagined your future with someone the way you see it, so believe it will happen one day. Experience the blessing of a baby with someone who will experience it with you, not someone who will take it for granted. He had 2 opportunities to be a father and is obviously not doin a great job if he's trying to convince you to what? Be a 3rd lady in his life for what purpose? Don't be a project trick. Don't mind the bluntness but your asking a question and I don't want you to get a half assed answer. You need to focus on yourself, your life, and your happiness. Your day will come. How old is he? To have 2 kids and dating a 19 year old tho? Sorry to pry..
If you really loved him, you wouldn't care of the fact that he has children from two other ex's. His past wouldn't matter to you, if you loved him as much as you said. I can understand you being 19 though. At that age, it's a huge responsibility to possibly become a young mother to those two children.
It sounds cliche, but only time will gradually lessen the guilt and pain. Everyone gets their heart broken. That's life.
He's 29,still looks young. About the other child,he's not sure if it is. He says he doesn't trust the girl because she use to sleep around when they were together. He's been trying to live a good normal life since he no longer does what he use to do in his pass. He still needs to do a paternity test for the one child.