How do I get over my moms death?

Its hard going through a mother's death. I personally haven't been through this. It must be really hard for you. My condolences to you and your family. When my grandfather died I couldn't help to think i never told him "i love you" but one way i got over his death was just to write about him like in a poem or however and cry your eyes out and as soon as ur done put that letter away safe, if your mother is buried u can take the letter to her grave a dig it by her. If she was made into ashes you can just keep the letter. But i really found this to help me while i was going through my grandfathers death. And believe me whenever your alone you can talk to her you may not get a response but just know she is hearing you, and she is always by yourside.

First off, my deepest condolences on the loss of your mom. Secondly, she was an alcoholic and she was drinking herself to death. Whether it was the alcoholism that killed her or not it was only a matter of time that it did.

And last, but most importantly, words do NOT kill. There is no secret karma or spirit-being listening to words spoken in anger then running out and following through for us. It's unfortunate the words were said and she died but that was a coincidence.
Why would you not be angry and frustrated that mom chose alcohol over you? Why would you not feel rejected by her drinking instead being able to invite friends over or be able to go to her for serious advice when she can't even take care of herself? Of course you would be angry.

You need to stop wallowing in self-pity wanting to believe you killed her with your words like a voodoo sorceress. It didn't happen. It was a matter of time until she killed herself with booze. Ultimately, she would have died before you anyway. That is the cycle of life. Parents die before their children in the normal life process.

So you need to pull yourself together. You are responsible for your future. When it comes time for you to transition to the otherside and you see her again you want jer to say how proud she is with what you did with your life. Wasting your life on guilt that has no basis is not living successfully.

Light a candle have a private little closure ceremony. Sing a song, read a poem, say a prayer, tell her how things are. It's time to say good bye and let her move on with her own journey and not keep her here hovering about, stressed over you. You both need to move on and you're preventing her from doing that with your daily guilt.

Some therapy sessions and/or group grief counseling would be very helpful for you.

Very best of luck kiddo. Move forward!

The Bible presents a more balanced view, one that is supported by modern research. You need to know the truth why we die and what happens after death..
Research has shown that people addicted as your mom was, usually have an underlying pain from childhood, bad associations or depression that they are masking with alcohol or drugs to cope. This would mean your mother was very ill emotionally. These addictions changes the person to have a destructive personality to themselves and those they love. You were too young to understand so because of frustration you retaliate because all you needed was a mother who is stable to help you through life. If you can forgive her you would be able to forgive yourself and focus on being a better person and stay away from peers who are bad association.
Whether by talking or writing, communicating your feelings can help you to release your grief. It is ok to cry at times just do not let it overwhelm you. You will always have affection for her and In time the pain will become less. Write down your feelings as if you were talking to her explain why you were not able to have a closer relationship. Set a goal as a token in her memory. It could be a career goal or to graduate or anything you choose and work towards that goal.. You may not understand why we all have to die but the bible explains why, but not according to the conventional belief but one of hope. The bible reassures us at John 5:28, 29 that there will be a resurrection and we will see our dead love ones again. Keep yourself busy for example read books that are up building and of course prayer.
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