Its been almost 2 months since he broke up with me over a text message. we were only together for almost 2 months but my heart literally feel broken. our 2 month would have been on the 12th he dumped me on the 10th. Also the 14th was Valentines day... which sucked. he hooked up with his ex 2 weeks after we broke up. then 2 weeks later he hooked up with me...then a week later he hooked up with his ex. I never really knew what people meant when they said they were heart broken, but now i know because it hurts so bad. My heart is broken.
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Welcome to the right of passage to full adulthood.
We have all been there and through it, have our full sympathy & understanding of the pain you feel.
Advice, well first off, do not allocate blame, there is rarely a break down in any relationship where one side fully guilty & the other totally innocent. Do not hate him or yourself, but forgive (after all he is only a weak & foolish boy not yet in control of his hormones! (and you perhaps gave to much trust to soon?) Why forgive, well because hatred is destructive to you, prevents you from moving on and forgiving puts you back in control of your life. After all it is YOUR emotions & it should be up to YOU how you feel, & not give that to the sad thoughtless actions of that other person.
Take this as an opportunity to grow, try a new interest, volunteer for something worthwhile & so meet new people. Get out & about so as to prevent mulling over what might of been.
If you have any keepsakes or memories, place them in a box for now, then put away out of sight & mind. Maybe in a year or so you can look back & remember the good times that you did have (or decide to just bin them!)
You are going through a type of bereavement,so grieving, anger & waves of emotion turmoil is to be expected. These waves will become less & less as time passes I promise.
One last thing, be careful about starting a new relationship for now, you may be doing it to relieve the pain, eg rebounding. That would not be fair on your new partner or you when your heart has mended & you are back in touch with your true feelings.
I hope this helps, I have given similar advice to friends & it has worked for them, so maybe you can help. Perhaps in years to come you will be able to help others with your experience.
Best of luck & take care.
Sadly there is no easy answer. It is going to hurt and it is going to take time. Getting over a relationship is a bit like getting over the death of a loved one with the added pain that the person is still there and you could still be with them if only they wanted it.
If you can take any solace in this at all, it's that going through this experience is a learning process and it will make it easier to deal with in future. The first time, though... it's just awful. We all go through it and we all know how you feel. I have ultimate sympathy for you and I hope you find a way past this sooner rather than later.
yep i can understand how u must be feeling now.... it realy hurts...
bt there is no solution to this because if you dont make your self strong then you will never get over him.... it hurts badly when those memories come back to you again and again but we can't do anything right.... so its better if we change our life n enjoy every moment of it
n one more thing wid time you will feel good :) you deserve better :)
n yes one more thing keep your self busy with stuffs you like it helped me a lot during my breakup...
