I have a few friends who try and be nice to me while i'm with them and make fun of me with each other ( sometimes even in front of me). They never involve me in their plans , we were very good friends until a little while ago they started boycotting me . they only talk to me when they need something . What should i do with them ? and most of all what should i do after that , what kind of friends should i look for?
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I'm sorry that they are doing that to you. I had a couple friends like that too. But I didn't do anything and it just got worse. It got to the point where they started spreading rumors about me. And they were really mean and hurtful rumors. What I did was I slowly started to wean myself away from them. Meaning I slowly started to make myself not as close to them. Next time they come to you only cause they need something, tell them no. And if that's too hard then just walk away. Ignore them for a while. The kind of friends you should look for are the ones who make you happy and support you and include you in things. The kind who don't come to you only because they need something. Find ones who don't care what others think and just like being themselves. I know it sounds hard but it will get easier. I promise. Ignore the ones who aren't your friends. They aren't worth it. I hope I helped! You will be able to make new friends! I promise!
Ignore them and find people you can relate to for example my best friend is shy and although we are complete opposites we get on really well because i used to be the shy kid who got picked on so i know how she feels and she knows how to keep me sane. However another close friend of mine that ive known for ten years now is exactly the same as me (very loud) and we have shared some lovely memories together... I keep her well grounded and don't let her fly off the handle when people wind her up and she knows exactly how to cheer me up.
You just need to find the kids you have the most in common with. I met my best mate when she was sitting alone on a bench one day in school and at first i hated her now we are inseparable.
Try talking to different people you're acquainted with and hang out with them you might find that the people you dismissed as possible friends before are actually the best friends you've had in a long time
Seems like your being used and they have the morale high ground
and your going to be push out of the group soon.
So think carefully and try doing your own things for now and take a break for them see how things settle but dont leave them in the cold, but dont give them to much of your time, also you can try get order back by do/getting something new.
By being more interesting changes the order of friends in a group.
Also be fresh new topics' new cloths' anything really they probably are just getting to close to you and them type usely grow up to fash and can end up being immature.
What to do with them... A dont let do talk to you much when its on there terms.
B when they want something thats your chance to Talk and talk on on your terms your interest and topics they mention before' now you can nail it because when they want something thats when they will be the most patience with you...
C But just be careful at any time they talk about your behavior thats a good sign that what your doing is working and selfish people are good at this stuff...
The moment a selfish person realizes they being hustle they usely just get angry so cause a riff then leave so its win win situation for them, there is no way to fix that because they will just find a new friend to take advantage of...
So what you can do is refuse what they want and if they Talk negative say...
I've givin you before if i give you again what does that mean ?
and what they answer is very important as from there they are a friend or not.
In the long term its about you no one else dont let no one change that...
Just by being yourself you will find others like yourself and be happy.