i want to be sure of who i am what i am doing... who my friends are and if i am honest with myself!? i just sometimes feel like the wrong person and i feel like i am completely nothing, not real and like i am not really living a life, i am just in a dream! please someone help me!!!!!
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i had a strong problem with this for a while and i found that its a waste of time trying to define yourself as its truly impossible. just be who you are. simple. the things you do, the people you are friends with, the interests you have (etc etc) are part of you're identity, if you really arent sure who you are then just have a look at these things and theyll tell you exactly what you want to know. you might be the guy that plays football all day, is kind, and loves maccaroni cheese. you might be the girl who talks alot, listens to placebo all day and has a cat named rover. at the end of the day who we are is what we do. and stop wanting to be anyone else, thats why you 'feel like the wrong person', because trust me you're way better being you. thats who you are.
You're lucky because you are asking yourself, and not letting someone else determine it for you. I never asked, I followed. And I found myself during a day long artillery and mortar barrage on a hilltop Marine base 4 days after embarking in Viet Nam at 17 and a half. Find a piece of countryside where you can be alone. Then look deep inside yourself and ask. Do I care or do I hate? Who do I love? Who do I hate? What do I love to do? What do I want to be? And do I have the guts to get there? Plus a dozen more. You will instinctively know what the real answers are, don't let second guessing take part. Do this more than once. The route you will take is yourself. Life is a circle.
thank u! i live in the middle of the country and for some reason i feel like this hill near by has always been asking for me.... in a WEIRD way but yeehhh its the perfect place to reflect and be alone! thank you :)