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Don't try to take his money away! He'll resent you for it. Have you told him you don't like weed?
I had that conversation with not 1 but 2 BFs- here's what happened:
BF1- I tell him I'm not into the weed smoking, and that if he doesn't have enough money to pay rent because of it and that it's giving him panic attacks then maybe he should cut back. I get too involved in stopping him and we break up.
BF2- I tell him I'm not into the weed smoking, that the panic attacks he's having *could* go away if he quits, and as a bonus, he'll have more money. But, it's up to him, and I'm not going to interfere, but if *he* feels its a problem, he should think about quitting. I let it be, he quits for a while and we move in together. Now, he does smoke, but only the amount he's comfortable with, and not in the apartment. We're still together, and I don't get involved with it. It works because we have rules and we're on the same page about it.
Basically, addicts only stop when they're ready to. You can't make him stop, all you can do is talk about it and how it affects you, hopefully establish some rules about the use, and make sure he knows it's up to him. It'll go better too if you don't make it a big deal, just bring it up conversationally. I hope that helps. Good luck.
I agree people give up......'cos they're
ready - not 'cos someone 'tells them 2'
U need 2decide - do u want stay with
someone who 'may' or 'may not give up'
Talk 2 him +do tell u are not in2 ....U may
choose 2 leave ( for good or until he is clean)
Your move..........................
