We met when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 16. I told him I was with somone at the time. Over the years we kept in touch but only when me and my boyfriend were off and on. Me and my ex have been together since I was 18, now 37. He's been incarcerated twice, 1 yr during the pregnancy of our daughter and for 3 yrs after. We now have 3 kids, two boys. We decided to get married right after he came home, but was a bad idea because we got a divorce two years later. The problem is when we separated, I reconnected with my friend again but didn't tell him I was married right away because I knew we were getting a divorce. Now that the divorce is over, I want us to try again, but he is still hurt, which I understand. I always wanted to be with him, but stayed with my ex-husband because I wanted our family to work. Although, there were many times I suggested a relationship, he always turned me down because of my history with my ex-husband . What should I do?
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The greatest contrast between love and infatuation is that love is unselfish. It considers the needs and feelings of the other. Infatuation is self-centered. Infatuated persons have a tendency to say, ‘I really feel important when I’m with him. I can’t sleep. I can’t believe how fantastic this is,’ or, ‘She really makes me feel good.’ Notice how many times either “I” or “me” is used? Never forget, “love . . . does not look for its own interests.”—1 Corinthians 13:5.
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