My father,got so mad at my friend because he was getting something for me. He told him to sit down, then started cursing and yelling so loudly that my neighbors heard. They even called my mom (who was shopping at the time) to ask if everything's all right. My friend is twelve and I'm 13. He's dealing with a lot of issues with anxiety right now, so this was not at all helpful for him. I listened to the whole conversation, I was so traumatized that I didn't shout back to protect my friend. What should I do when I have so much anger towards my dad? Because I think he broke up yet another one of my best friends. I used to have tons of friend, but now I maybe have one or two. Now my friend is telling the principle of our school about the fight, and it's just turning into a big mess. His family is also expecting to move, if his dad gets the job he applied for. What should I do about this?
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Well it sounds like you and your family needs someone to talk to, as a family. What your friend is doing is a good. It may not seem like it right now, but, later on you will get it and understand why he did. Sometimes fathers need help. We all do at times. some more then others. Let him talk and you go too talk to someone and let them know.
One’s parents have a profound influence on personality development throughout childhood and adolescence. From a very early age, people learn to express anger by copying the angry behavior they see modeled around them.”
If a child is raised in a hostile environment—a place where tempers flare over trivial matters—the child is, in effect, being trained to respond to life’s problems with anger. You could liken the child’s situation to a plant that has been nourished with tainted water. The plant may grow, but its development could be stunted, and it could perhaps suffer permanent damage. Likewise, anger is like tainted water, and children who have been exposed to it are more inclined to have anger problems as adults May be your dad had such a childhood. Or there is a hidden resentment of some sort that causes him to be set off.
You however needs him because you cannot take care of yourself right now. Therefore you must maintain your respect for him whether you think he deserves it or not. You cannot take on the problems your friend is going through because you do not know the real issue only what he tells you. Many children today are being raised in a hostile household. The only help you can give is sympathize with him. Before bringing a friend home ask yourself how would my dad react to such a friend. Speak to your mom about your feelings and ask her before bringing a friend over. Or just do not bring friends over so you will not be embarrassed by your father's outburst. If you ever have the opportunity to speak alone with your dad and he is in a good mood ask him if his dad got angry with him . You may be able to understand why he gets so angry. Take note of your father's behavior and make sure you are not affected by this behavior. For more information and free downloads go to www.jw.org and go search box and type in "Young People Ask Answers That Work" vol. 1&2