He is very tough, strong and short temperd guy. We have arguments most of the time. He wants me to surrender everytime. But whenever i dont surrender he gets really cranky, he swears and end up hitting me. And next day he apologise. But recently, after having our kids. He dosnt apologize but blames me instead. And I'm noticing its getting regular, means every year we'll have a big fight and end up hitting me or insulting me in front of others. But what happened recently that he hit me in front of my two kids. My older one who is 4, she was shacking in fear cause my husband took a knife to hit me. But ge didnt hit me bcause i surrender that time. I didnt call cops because i was afraid that my kids gonna experience this kind of situation. I dont want them to raise as single parent and they like their Dad. If i get separated, they wont raise in good condition. But im heartbroken. I dont know what to do...
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When I read your cry for help, it reminded me of the situation I went through with my husband.
I had four children an we had been married at that time for 11 years. His priorities started to change over a period of time, words were hurtful, and then came the abuse.
One night he used his foot to kick me out of the bed, and on the floor I went, next he through my clothing out and then dragged me by the back of my shirt through the house
in front of my children. Before I tell you about the outcome, let me say this, mine was not the worst case of abuse. Another person I know was not only beaten but actually killed in front of her children and she had 5 children.
When the person you love and who promised to love you forever starts tuning on you in such a pronounce and violent way, it makes you wonder why?
I tray very hard to live my life according to Bible guidelines. The Bible say, (Ephesians 5:28) "In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself."
Putting your hand on a person, you say you love, in anyway other then to show that love, is not love. It is control.
You have to ask yourself, which would work better for you and your children, having you alive and well enough to care for them, or being without a mother at all. Then might your husband abuse them, (Children) soon as well.
Worst then being alone, is being with someone who is making your life unbearable.
So back to my story, I was bewildered. I had no way of supporting myself, no money, and at the point of a nervous breakdown.
So I prayed, and cried and then I went to family court, because I needed protection, for myself and my children. Also the only way I could get help from the state was with him out of the house.
I took back, control of my Life and My Children's life.
I still loved my husband, however he needed help I was unable to give him at that time.
He was drowning and wanted to take the family with him. I had to save myself and my children before I could help him. I could not do that if I was Dead or mentally out of it.
The Bible says at, (1 Corinthians 13:4,5)
" Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoke."
Take a fools advise, RUN, GET HELP NOW!
Do not be afraid, Pray, to the one who is a hearer of pray.
(Proverbs 18:10) "The name of Jehovah is a strong tower. Into it the righteous one runs and receives protection."
I hope this is helpful.
The first violent act in human history was an incident of domestic violence involving two brothers, Cain and Abel. (Genesis 4:8) After that Cain said to his brother Abel: “Let us go over into the field.” So while they were in the field, Cain assaulted his brother Abel and killed him.
Ever since then, mankind has been plagued with all manner of domestic violence.
Viewpoint is one factor. If you sincerely try to understand the other person’s point of view, you are more likely to discern how to preserve a united household. A second factor is your source of guidance. Many people follow the advice of workmates, neighbors, newspaper columnists, or other human guides. Some, though, have found out what God’s Word says about their situation, and then they applied what they learned. How can doing this help a family to maintain peace in a household?—2 Timothy 3:16, 17 16 All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness, 17 so that the man of God may be fully competent, completely equipped for every good work.
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Ignore his blames like you love your children
and the problems will solve themselves. By the way only a real person can apologise, and it shows that how much he loves u. Everyone get anger, some person less and some more, so dont worry about it. By the way yoga and meditation must help him, so somehow ask him to do yoga and meditation.