My dad is Chinese and he has this family tradition mentality while my mom is a struggling Christian who makes sense of the world through western mannerisms. Their different views in life constantly come to heads and there's a lot of arguing with my brother, who has quit college and has resorted to Amway, while he does not learn to clean up after himself. All of this bitterness has allowed me to understand at a young age how careful I need to be to develop a healthy mental attitude in order to do well in the world. I am still humble by letting myself learn from my parents' lessons, but I want to help them develop healthier attitudes. Despite the fact that my parents are nearing their 50's, I refuse to believe that it is too late for them to change. I am trying my best to understand them and I have recently been on very good terms with them. Cleaning and organizing the house is no problem for me. Every now and then, I try to talk to them about how important it is to have an attitude of positivity and bravery and a love of learning, but they rarely listen fully to what I say and usually forget later on. If you have any advise on how to get them to listen to each other instead of forcing their beliefs upon each other and my brother and sister, I would greatly appreciate it
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To be honest, I am a Chinese and just graduated from a U.S. college. I had a Christian roommate from Africa. I did went through some thing that we did not agree with each other. more or less, I believe it is not because of you are a Chinese or a Christian, it is way of how you think of something.
For example, my college used to have some safety problem, so police cars always driving around my campus. Every time before I step out of my dom. I often look out through the window to make sure there are not some 'sagging' people hanging around.
My roommate keeps saying, "no worries! There are some cops out there and protect us." I say "if it is 100% safe why cops keep driving around our campus?!". "cops showing up means SAFE!" "if there is no potential danger why cops are there?!".
I am not saying everyone, but different cultures really make people different. Instead of convincing your parents to stop 'arguing', I would suggest you to do something that reminds them what brought them together and all the ways they make each other's lives wonderful!
If you could do that, I think the situation would be much better!