... where younger but nothing serious, we have known eachother for about 6 years, we now feel we are in a good place we never argue both of us have a job and we really want a baby, both of us do, I often find myself crying because I just want one so bad, I basically brought up my little brother who is now 2 and a half, I know babies are hard work but I know I'll be able to manage especially with my boyfriend support, I don't know what to do
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First off, let me tell you that while this is not an uncommon feeling, there are some innate things that you need to deal with. First of all, you have to think of things outside of your feelings for your boyfriend and your potential child. If you have a child, where will it live? Will your boyfriend be around to act as its father? Will you be able to raise it as its mother? If the answer is yes, then I'm happy for you. But before going ahead with getting your boyfriend to impregnate you, I highly suggest waiting until you are 18. Why? Because then, you can get married. You may wonder why it's such a big deal, but I assure you, it is. Having a mother and father is wonderful, but for the child to know that his mother and father are connected in marriage will give him/her a sense of security and comfort that not many children have these days. It's imperative that you consider this, because it is a decision that literally affects your child's entire life.
As long as you get married in the end. It's really important. Wishing you many happy returns.
Ok thank you, I know for a fact my parents would let him live with us until we got our own place, so he would be around a lot to help, we both like the thought of kids before marriage because we would like our kid to be involved in our big day