... much time at his mother's house. Me and my boyfriend live together, however since he works for his grandmother being her aid from 9am to 5pm everyday. I have a 9am to 5pm job as well, but when I get off of work on a daily basis he wants to do Uber Eats delivery service that I do along with him to keep him company. Now we both work our 9-5 job but he does Uber Eats as a supplemental income which is, fine not complaining. So I feel that he is spending way to much time at his mother's house and barley any time with me , every holiday he wants to spend with his family and he is 29 years old. This week his mom out of no where bought new furniture and needed him to stay back the whole day to remove all the old furniture , and haul away the old furniture and clean out the whole entire garage. After that is all set and done , he has to paint his mother's whole entire house, now this project will definitely take him a good 3 more days to finish this project. I feel that his mom doesn't respect our relationship because it's like she always needs him to do do something for her, for example if me and him was out for dinner and she wanted to go to a club , she tells him that he has to pick her up and drop her off, I feel that's weird when she has her own car, but refused to drive it and she says she is scared to take a Lyft or an Uber! Am I overreacting, please someone tell me because I don't know what else to do? I barley see him and I feel he chooses him mother over our relationship?
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Respectfully, I don't think this question is suitable to an open forum (at least from your perspective).
Are you right to be upset? This is not objectively defined unless you've signed a contract. I'd say it's important to consider how much and the quality of the time you do spend together (how's the interaction during these deliveries?), whether his father's around, how straightforward you've been in presenting your plight (men are far from psychic), the extent of your fear of abandonment and his acknowledgement / acceptance of it.
Communication is one pillar upon which a relationship is established, as they say.