Hi i have been married for 8years and now feel betrayed by my wife's lies.My wife slept with sisters husband and lied from before we were married and she was also living with him. My wifes's family knew about this including her sister but did not tell me. Before i came to know we should also often visit them and spend the weekends at their house.don't know what to do and need advice.
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I do feel sorry for what has happened. I strongly suggest sitting down with her and talking about it while it is just you and her or also with a close a friend you can trust if it is needed. If she is willing to stop this behavior and be a faithful spouse, then I suggest forgiving your wife and finding a trusted and experienced marriage counselor either locally or at a couples skill building retreat. That might sound like a turn off but it may also be necessary. If you still want your marriage to work.
If your wife is not willing to change and stop her behavior, you will be justified if you decide to get a divorce. But that should only considered if she is not willing to stop cheating and work out these problems. This requires the both of you to work together to resolve these problems.
yes , I agree with the above comment 100 percent , the best advise is as anonymous suggests.