Hi all, thanks in advance if you take the time to answer this - it means a lot. I will try keep?

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...  this short. But my now ex TEXT me today to say he's going back to his ex (who he has a child with) as he needs to try make things work for the child's sake. I was devastated but I understand that his child should come first. I was more hurt that he ditched me via text. I could sense it was in the pipeline that he was going to go back to his ex but I never mentioned anything and I don't think he's physically cheated. On Sunday his mum sadly passed away but please note this isn't a decision out of grief - like I say I could sense it being in the pipeline.

He's had a lot of hard times recently and I've stood by him and supported him dispite my own issues. I've always put my feelings secondary to his even when he's hurt me or broken my trust. I feel I've given my life up and put all my trust into his lies.

He's going to call me tomorrow to speak - should I get everything off my chest and tell him all he's done to hurt me in the past or let it go and move on seen as he's grieving a serious loss? 

Sorry for the sketchy info and thanks again guys, I'm truly broken and just need clarity x

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I would definitely tell him how you feel, but sooner may be the worst thing to do seeing as his situation is what it is. Try waiting a little (a few months?) and see if he is in a state to understand and not jump at you for it. You absolutely need to be able to have that kind of stress and burden removed, but time and place is key. In the meantime try to talk with a close friend and get some more understanding of what to do with you for now. I hope this helps and good luck.

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You should be out when he calls. Nothing to talk about. A broken relationship stays broken forever.

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I think that you should tell him how you feel, but probably consider yourself blessed that he leaves.  Anyone that doesn't make YOU their priority in the relationship, doesn't deserve to be in your life.

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Dear Alice, I think you should let it go. Sometimes it's best to keep your sadness locked up. Even if it devastates you, you should try your best to keep everything in the best way possible. I honestly understand how you're feeling and what you're going through. The same thing occured to me as well. My (ex)girlfriend ditched me to go back to her ex. We had a relationship of 2 years. She even ditched me the same way, with a text:/ When I read that message I was furious, but my anger soon got away and I moved on. And a few  months later I met a wonderful person at work, that later became my girlfriend;) So what I try to tell you is that you should accept the fact that he can't be with you and move on. (I hope that wasn't too harsh) You should think possitive. think about the childs bright future with his dad or think about your own possible future with your special someone.
Well I wish you good luck with your life and hope you can keep it up!
Kind regards,
Samuel Santiago Karf

Hi all, thanks in advance if you take the time to answer this - it means a lot. I will try keep?

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