LFC8

Help with friends through depression?

Posted:: 3+ months ago by LFC8
Topics:: friend, depression, mental, friends, help

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I have mild depression which really messes me up in every way possible !

I have only told my gf and parents that I have the condition, but don't want to tell anyone else as I feel ill be told to man up and just get called lazy :(

I have pushed everyone away in my life and I can't stop it :(

My main reason for this question is because I don't know if I'm being stupid or it's what most people would think.

My so call friends recently have just booked a holiday away and I was never asked, but once asking them they made up some crap excuse. There reply was we asked 4 people and didn't want to 5 people. Am I being panaroid or not ?? They didn't want me to go is my feeling. Was does everyone else think :/ ?

If they didn't want me to go I would of had enough of them and wouldn't want to talk to then every again !! This has been winding me up for a few date and didn't know where else to turn too.

I hope you nice people can help me in anyway please :)

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esterpoppy

Hello there :)

I'm Ester, I'm 20 years old now and I have read your questions :)

I fully understand what you are going through right now. I know how it feels like to be drown in a deep thoughts where you feel very negative. Recently, I've also been struggling with relationship problems, I fought a lot with my bf because I had this endless anxiety and worries that caused me to think negatively towards my bf.

And recently, I've been praying, and I got an answer that, whatever you think would happen, might happen to you. So, if you think negatively of them, I think it will be more or less like that. It is okay to feel the way you feel though :)

But, all that matters is, if you keep letting these thoughts control you, all things around you would get worsened too. So, it is important to step back, to just sit and ask yourself these questions:

"Is what I feel is true?"
"Does this benefit them if I keep thinking about it?"
"Do I need to feel this way?"
"What will I achieve if I think like this?"

These are the questions that helped me to suffer from anxiety disorder :) and also pray, if you believe in God :)) it helps a lot

However, I am willing to support and answer any further questions of yours :)

Believe that you are precious and you have a lot of people to turn to. World is bigger than just the friends you have :)

Be proud of yourself! :)

God bless you :)

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LFC8

Thank you for your reply :) I used to be the most laid back person in the world till this depression started and wouldn't of care or thought it over and over like this. Do you feel that I should just back off my current friends and go out and make new friends ?

Thank you for understanding and being very kind :) I hope you are well and feeling better in yourself and stronger minded :)

esterpoppy

Hello there :) glad to see your reply too :)

My opinion is that if your friends only give you bad improvements or only give you negativities, I suggest you to stand up and walk out :) you are just too precious to just give a thought to what bad people think of you. Life is just once, so I think it is better to not let your time be wasted for such unsupportive friends

Believe me, the world is bigger than you think :) there are still lots more good people out there who would support and encourage you :) you are worth it.

Your friends determine what your future will be, your community takes a really big part of influencing you to fulfill your dreams. So you have to be careful of who your friends are :)

You can always message me anytime you need ears or shoulder. You have a lot more people in the future that can make you feel special :)

Surround yourself with positive people, so your life will also be positive :)

LFC8

I fully agree with that one, but don't believe I will ever get any other friends :(

Thank you very much for your kind words :) means a lot :)

I 100% agree with that :)

Thank you very much I have booked an appointment to see how I can improve my life and everything :) thank you

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