I had a baby over seven weeks ago. now there is a half inch long slit starting from the vaginal opening going in the toward my anus. The muscles inside my vagina are visible if I open up the slit. When closed it appears normal, but when opened up it reveals a slightly enlarged vaginal opening. My anus is only a small thumb's width away from the tear/slit, so I know I have not healed properly or the slit would be closed. Air now often gets into my vagina and it released as a "queef" when I sit down. Water often gets in during baths and flows out when I stand up. I really need some help! I feel disgusting and theres no way I could have sex like this. I need to know if I go to my gynecologist, will they recut and stitch me to normal again? Or will plastic surgery (which I cannot afford by any means) be my only option?
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it sounds like you wasent given the proper after birth care you needed, you shouldn't still have a slit! that should of healed within the first month and fully healed within 8 weeks maximum! you clearly need to go see a dr asap and get stitched up properly before it gets worse and you'll probably never be able to have sex again properly, once you have healed up and decide to have sex again, you and your partner may notice a diffrence i.e. feeling looser than usualy, don't panic as there are excersises you can do to 'tighten' up down there, look up 'kegles' you wouldn't need to worry about p.surgery because this works perfectly. good luck!
lulululu I am a first time mom my baby is 12 weeks old and I have this exact same problem and do not know what to do. Wondering if you talked to your OBGYN or figured anything out. I was relieved to see this post because I have kept this to myself since after childbirth thinking maybe this is just "what happens after you have a baby". I am so worried but I want to be attractive to my husband and this is GROSS. Let me know if you figured anything out I also cannot afford plastic surgery.
I went to the gyn. They said it appears to be healing on its own. The problem was a small indention in the vaginal wall on the bottom. They tested me for fistula and I had none. They said mucosa is forming over the indention and the slit should close to match with the inside of me. They told me to wait a month and see if it heals on its own. If not they said if I want it restitched they can do it but they don't know if they'd have to redo the entire episiotomy. I'm not experiencing any more air or water getting in it thank god so I think its getting better. The slit however is still there. I really don't want to have another episiotomy. I don't understand why they can't just give me a stitch.
By the way I had sex and its def not looser lol.. in fact I have trouble getting him in easily and I could never imagine doing so without lubricant. There's just that freaking slit still on the outside that's soooo annoying. Its on the very outside. Everything inside is great. Maybe I should look into an herbal treatment to heal the slit and small indention? I do not want another episiotomy at all. I'm extremely happy with the way the inside healed and I would not want to screw it up for anything. I wish they would have told me okay lets just fix this little tear up front and be done.
lulululululu glad to hear the inside healed properly, i have the same problem, i'm now 8weeks PP. I was advised to continue sitz baths.... It seems to be healing but not sure if I'm judging the initial length of the slit correctly....I have an gynae appointment in a couple weeks. Has your slit now healed?
hi its been 11 months since i gave birth to my lg & i kept going to my gp before my postnatal check and she kept saying id heal etc etc shes used to b a gynae so i trusted her word it wasnt until i went for a smear that i asked the nurse to have a look in which case she confirmed i had a gape and couldnt see it healing anymore than it had done it wasnt going to miraculously close up !!! so i asked to be referred to a current gynae and im due my op on monday !!!! after a lonnggg wait by the way they wont do it for cosmetic reasons but mine isnt cosmetic i get sore on a weekly basis as im more open than i should be and my sexlife is none existant and it has really made me feel down, dont get me wrong im not lookingforward to the op but will be glad when its done and i can get on with my life hope this helps everyone
it been five months now since i give birth, i was never stitch and i can feel that i am torn. can i still be stitch normally?
pls help i am worried
Hi! I am so glad I found this site where I am not the only one going through this because I honestly feel so alone with this :( May I ask you how you are now? I went last week for a repair surgery and I still have water coming out of me when I stand up in the bath tub. Not sure if that is normal or not? Would love to hear what everyone's outcome is and hope it's great now for all of you.
hi ya read my comment on whole page hope it helps you (im not sure when this was posted so dont know if youve sorted youself) all the best