I am 22 years old have been suffering from depression for the past two years. Through counselling I have come to realize that the cause of my depression is my family. They have always had this attitude with me that "you cant do anything" or "you're worthless". Always putting me down for things and not any faith in me or positive attention. Over the years it made me lose confidence in myself and is now a big cause of my depression. My family is all very close to one another and I seem to be the odd one out. I have four older sisters and 3 are unmarried and in their 30's and still all live at home. My parents are very traditional and I finally gained the courage after 2 years of dating my boyfriend to tell them I was seeing someone. Now I am ready to move out with my boyfriend because I know it'll bring me personal growth and happiness but I also know it will break my parents hearts. They are extremely traditional and moving out before marriage with a boy is highly condemned. I love them a lot, especially my mom who has fought for me and stood by me through everything. Do I move out now or suck it up for 2 or 3 more years and then get married and move out?
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Hello,
If you are suffering from depression you don't need anyone to help you with it,you are strong you can help yourself and your family is the number 1 in your life. and don't ever say that your dad hates you. if he did then you would be begging in the streets for food and cloth he is helping you,caring,feeding you and your boyfriend is someone who helps you and feels you so i prefer that you don't move out stay with your parents at least for 2 years then you can get married and move to your own house. your pretty and you are not worthless someone out there loves you and someone special<3.
kind regards,
anayes
Hi my friend, it's not a new story it's just like you are talking about my family, I had grown up with all kind of depression, violence and gloominess.
I lost confidant and believe in my self.
But I tried my hard to find my own and to not let my family miss up my own life and future.
By making my own personality and dreams I find my self and I'm really happy with what I'm now.
Hi you seem to be alert to the situation and am very proud of you for thinking before you act. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you,so why rush it. Since your family is closely knitted I will suggest that you take your time and weigh the benefits of still living home. Your parents are absolutely right that you should marry before you move in with your boyfriend. Moving in with your boyfriend will not solve your depression,if anything it will add to it. Living with a mate is a heavy responsibility and you are so young why rush into it. Besides trying to avoid your family should not be a reason to move in with your boyfriend.
God takes intimate relationships very seriously,for he says at Genesis 2:24," That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to his wife,and they will become one flesh." God is telling you the only time you should leave your parents home and move in with a guy is when you are married. God sees marriage as honorable . There is nothing better than having God's approval in your marriage,the blessings are tremendous.
I have studied the bible with many people who suffers with all types of depression, and studying the bible with them have really made a positive effect on them. Let me just mention a few scriptures that really shows you that God personally loves and cares for you :
1) James 4:8," Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you." Imagine the Creator of the universe is giving you a special invitation to be his friend,it's the best friendship you could ever have,
2) 1 Peter 5:7."Throw all your anxiety on him,because he cares for you." Your problems are never to much for him to handle. He wants to help you because he genuinely cares for you,he is not looking for any payment he wholeheartedly cares for you and wants to take your problems from you. What friend could ever offer this invitation? Only your Heavenly Father could.
3) Isaiah 41:13,"For I,Jehovah your God, am grasping your right hand,The one saying to you,'Do not be afraid. I will help you." It's a special previledge to have your Heavenly Father grasp your right hand. He is reminding you that don't matter what happens he have your back. What's even more special about this invitation is that he is willing and able to act on your behalf, this is a promise and guarantee from your Dear Father,why not take him up on his offer,it will be the best decision you ever made.
Hope this information help you to see happiness does not come from running away but it comes from within you. Include your best and reliable friend Jehovah in your life and I promise you ,he will make your life more meaningful,peaceful,satisfying and happy.
If you will like to have a free personal bible study, please contact me or visit JW.org and request a bible study. It will be the best choice you ever made in your life.