I am currently a sophomore in college, in a 5 year major and go to a college close to home so commute there. I have never been happy here, feeling like I am missing out on the college experience and struggling to meet the GPA requirements of my major after a tough first semester. Also being a commuter I feel left out because the dormers stick together while the commuters literally just go home when done with class. My junior year I would really like to transfer colleges and have 3 in mind. One is fairly close to home but I would still have to live there and the other two are about 2 hours away. One of the two hour away one's one of my best friends and my boyfriend of 2.5 years go to. I know that it's wrong to transfer colleges solely to be closer to your boyfriend, but this college has a good major for me to go into to still finish within the 5 years. (the other 2 hr away would take a total of 6) Being away from him has been tough but it is bearable because we visit each other quite often so I'm not just switching because I can't stand being away from him. My best friend and boyfriend are also both a year younger than me so I don't want people to think I am following them, even though they have both told me multiple times they would love if I came there. I'm scared to leave home because I am super close to my family, but I also will never get these years back and for how much money is spent on college I feel like I should be happy. If I choose the school they go to I'm scared of what his parents will think, though mine just want me to be happy. I also think the transition would be easier because transferring junior year can be tough because a lot of people already made friends and live in apartments. If I went to their school I'd have people to live with and the comfort of knowing them when making friends becomes difficult. I am really leaning towards their school for this reason. Is it a bad idea or totally crazy to want to go there? please help.
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what does your boyfriend think about you transfering i would want to change if he supports your decision this might be the right thing to do but when its all said and done its what you feel more happier doing and the support you have backing in the college you feel you wanna go to
Right now he doesnt know I am really considering it because I dont want him to get his hopes up or anything.
He has mentioned that I should go there because he knows I have wanted to go somewhere else since my first semester. Everytime I go see him he asks me do you like it here? It is a really nice campus and its 15 minutes from a big city so there is always something to do.