HELP!!?

First of all take a chill pill and secound I think that you should really think about the relationship with your bf because if your thinking about unwind a kid with someone esle you rent really that commited to this guy I personally would want to have a kid some day my self but I would wait because I will feel a billion time better if my bf the person I love would want one to but if they don't want to at this time and you go get prego by some one esle I would be mad at you too

Settle down...
For one 17 and 16 is waay to young to be having kids! You can't force him to have kids at that age, i don't blame him. My brother is 18 and I can't imagine him having kids at that age! the normal age is in your 20s to 30s to 40s. I would just take a chill pill and wait for the future to arrive :) face it, you guys are WAAAAY TOO YOUNG! Nearly insane! gl for kids in teh future tho :)

Well first of all I would HIGHLY recommend NOT having a child until your married regardless of age. The husband wife relationship with in a family is important for children and helps with their understanding of stability and relationships.

Second I would not recommend having a child unless the Father can provide for his family and I know of very few males between 13-17 who can do that. It does not take as much money as some people would make it out to provide for a family ( we are exspecting our 4th child and hope for more so I no) however it does take basic needs such as a place to live and means to get food. I know there are alot of 'programs' out there for people and I am not even against that use it when you need it but only then and get off it and don't spend your life living of welfare.

Being a woman I understand your desire got children it is only natural however there is a time and place for everything. I was married when I was 18 years old ( my husband is three years older then I am) I have never regretted it all and we are going on 8 years of marriage now. We wanted kids right away and it did not happen right away but did eventually and now as I said we are expecting our 4th and could not be happier so I am not against getting married young or having a family young at all I am just saying have a plan.

He was in the Navy which he is not now, I was working and in college. we both finished school early and new what we wanted out of life an planned for it granted things do not always work as planned but children are nothing to take lightly and if you do not have the means to provide basic needs wait. I am not talking about toys or fancy clothes or anything not truly needed but I am talking about food and shelter, and standing on your own two feet. If you can not do that then you should wait.

Raising kids is not something to do off a feeling or desire it takes dedication, time, money, resources and a lot on both parents that is if you want to be a GOOD parent there are a lot of crappy ones out there too who could care less about their kids. You should want to do better then that and provide better if you really want kids and a family. Also you should pick a man who wants something similar to you in life and has the same values, when raising a child it is important to have the same values and discipline views as well as life style. Your kids learn everything from you, and you should want to instill in them good moral character and hard work ethic.

So in answering your question I think you should wait and get married and THEN start a family.