He lives 40 minutes away so its hard to see each other but we text everyday, pretty much all day. I have been sick of the bad boy type and he knda gave me that impression first but he said he was a reform bad boy and was actually a good guy. After getting to know him a little he really seemed like it. He started talking about moving in together and getting married and having a baby when we get older, and just kept talking about the future. That stuff would usually scare me off but it just felt right. He had a myspace and after a weekend of dating he deleted it. I asked him why and he said i dont need it anymore, i have you. I slept with him for the first time this weekend and the sex was great, but now he is acting different. He just isn't texting me as much. Its only been a day and he works at night bartending so I know he can be busy. Am i being crazy? Did he just say all of those things about our future to get me to sleep with him? Should I confront him about it or just assume he's busy working? Thanks!!!
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I think that he used you as way to get great sex, i know that you dont want to hear this but most bad boys can not change. Its hard to believe but i think you took this guy in as a project to fix him in a way. And maybe like you said that you were ussualy scared of the future thing maybe he is more so then you are. So, i would just try to forget about him if possible becuase he does live a bit away and texting relationships arnt good relationships. They are made from fear.
I don't think he's using you for any sexual interest, I believe he's busy but in addition to being busy, your boyfriend might also have a thought in mind where he says to himself "I've accomplished a goal; Its time to proceed to step 4." Now think of having sex as a breaking-point, after sexual intercourse, your relationship might become dull due to no sexual excitement or entertainment although both halves are willing to engage sexual intercourse with each other at anytime, your boyfriend has it in mind that he's pleasured both you and himself before you had engaged sexual intercourse with him. Now there's nothing but planning your lives with each other and continue to enjoy each others company as much as possible because think of sexual intercourse as the final step towards a guaranteed and successful relationship between two partners. After sex you have nothing else to reach further into other than living peacefully with each. You and your boyfriend may be obliged to have sex willingly at anytime but sex is nothing new to you two unless it's make-up sex where both partners are in some sort of conflict and either male or female do whatever it takes to resolve the issue and perform make-up sex where feelings and the adrenaline between the two partners increase exponentially. Believe me, your boyfriend would have nothing to gain from using you for sexual intercourse because spending excessive amount of time texting each other and spending time with each other is time consuming and no guy would waste about a month on trying to get just one girl to sleep with him unless he was completely desperate, which i don;t think your boyfriend is. If you've engaged sexual intercourse on the first week of dating then he's most likely using you or has it in mind that you're too easy to persuade into having sex.
