... have been together for 3 years and I decided that I want to go ahead with the marriage right. So i went and spoke it with my mum but she refuse that i can't get married to her because she is from another tribe and i am the successor of my father. She said tradition does not accept that.
I am confuse and i don't know what to do. I have cried but crying won't solve the problem I have in hand. Please i need answers
Hello Good afternoon. I am from Cameroon. There is this girl I love so much and she love me to. We?
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You would have to over come the tradition and change the tradition so you can get married your tribe needs to be able except this girl from her tribe and in order to do this you might have to go to higher up. When tribes have different traditions you might have to talk to your dad and her dad about making traditions that will allow one to take another tribes members into consideration as far as marriage goes.
can you talk to a superior about the tradition
You are in a difficult predicament both of you, sometimes what we cannot have we want the most, and then it's easy to confuse feelings with being defiant to your parents.
I am not sure what ages you are, and forgive me if I am mistaken but you sound rather young.
Three years yes it is a long time but a lifetime is even longer,. The questions you have to ask yourself is, what would happen if you went along with the marriage, would you lose everything else and would be prepared to do that, far from me really to comment because I do not understand your traditions and tribes rules. But feelings are feelings regardless of where we live on this earth, and they can be rather overpowering make us do things that we regret later. In essence nobody can answer this question for you except you.
Ponderingmind
I cannot change the tradition. She is my fiance and i do not want to lose her. I am confuse