Healthy relationship?

Your #1 example of a healthy relationship is how your daddy and mommy treated each other. If you don't think that was a healthy relationship then get out now and avoid a lot of painful memories.

A healthy relationship is when you are aware of a need and you take care of it. A human has five needs: air, water, food, clothing/shelter, and companionship. A lot of people don't know what companionship is. Work on that.

It's ok to argue as long as you don't insist on winning all the time.

I commend you for wanting to maintain a good relationship with your spouse. Marriages today are so broken that many people are afraid to get married. Marriage bonds are strengthened when couples make time to share feelings and opinions. How we say something is as important as what we say. Therefore, even in difficult situations, endeavor to make what you say gracious, both in your tone of voice and in your choice of words. You will make it easier for your mate to listen to you. (Read Colossians 4:6.) A husband and a wife can reinforce their marriage with good communication by saying “only what is good for building up as the need may be, to impart what is beneficial” to their spouse.—Eph. 4:29. It was after two broken marriages I realized the bible has the best instructions to follow to strengthen marriages. Try to understand your wife's feelings instead of seeing her as someone who nags all the time. She in turn should give you the respect as head of the household. She will allow you this headship if she feels genuinely cared for.
Couples can also forge a strong marriage bond when they seek their mate’s advantage, putting their spouse’s personal interest ahead of their own. (Phil. 2:3, 4) Husbands as well as wives need to be sensitive to the emotional and sexual needs of their mate.—Read 1 Corinthians 7:3, 4. Sometimes a woman need to be cuddled not have to lead to sex. The wife needs to understand that men respond to communication differently. Marriage partners who want a lasting marriage should seek the bible's direction because the originator of marriage would have the best counsel.
For more information on this subject, please go to jw.org. for free downloads, publications or read online. The Brochure "The Key to family happiness" and the book "the Secret of Family Happiness." Marriage couples have had great success