I had a baby with my ex boyfriend who was married at the time. His wife knows about the baby now because he told her. He treats me like shit, threatening to hurt me, even pulling my hair. He had even done this in front of his wife. However, he treats his wife like a princess and they have no kids together. I feel like his entire household revolves around his wife, and his grandaughter. I sometimes dont even feel that he loves his son because of the way he treats me. I thought most men have a healthy respect for the mother of their child, but I have been Iafraid of my life at times.. I have done nothing to this man. His excuse for getting angry is that I complain too much. But he has repeatedly ignored every request I ever had, even about my son. He even said he wasnt gonna pay the amount of child support the courts tell him to for our son. This infuriates me. I believe our son is worth every penny, but he said he cant pay because hes got 2 other people to support including his wife who doesnt work. In my mind their is no excuse for his behavior. What do I do? Why doesnt he have any respect for me.

Please do not reprimand me for the affair, I dont want to hear it. It was a mistake and I would never do it again.