... problem is he is currently married but they are separated right now. 1 young child involved. I can see its a problem waiting to happen. He use to like me in College but I didn't know that then, he was shy, I've always had a crush on him except I was worried because he use to have a bunch of groupie girls around him all the time. We've been good friends all these years, always confide in each other or share our successes or losses with each other knowing we won't receive judgement. Recently he's moved back to my Neighbourhood and has reached out to chill. We have once and have set a plan to hang out again.. So more to the point.. I do not have kids, I want marriage and a family but already wasted time with someone for 4 years who had a child and I'm not sure I wanna go through that again but not everyone is the same.. Should I go for it?
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You are saying you are good friends. So why don't just hang out with a good friend for a while not considering any time as "wasted"? It seems that you haven't recovered after "someone who had a child". Maybe, he also needs some time to be ready for a new relationships after breaking up with his wife. I would suggest you just don't bother yourself with such questions. If you are afraid of something would go wrong, just wait till all your fears disappears facing your willing to love somebody and... be loved.
i would just hang out with him from time to time till you get to the point where you want to be involved it gives you time to grow and it also helps him grow his relationship that hes separated from is a good idea that you know about it and you would be on a cusp if you didn't already know him at least you are trying to gradually see what that is about and your doing it slowley and not jumping in head first take your time and see what developes
But that's the thing, all these years was us just hangin out and now it's like tensions building? He's watched me go through 2 serious relationships and I've watched him start succeeding in his career, get married and have a child but now he's really taken interest and it's as if he's waitin on me to give him a sign.. He actually told me that yesterday.. And I tend to over think things and the way I am I would generally not even consider it but it's kind of like now or never.. Should I just stop it from now and stop giving myself what I think to be false hope? OR actually try and take a chance? I don't have much friends to talk to about this but I know strangers would give honest answers..
That's sweet. Thanks. You're right. My hearts not ready for pain yet and he is a good friend. I guess I'll try to keep it like that and if it's meant to be it will be.