... prity much every feature I have . Anyway, this self conscious side of me does stay behind closed doors and I put on a brave face but it really does effect me. I am shy and nervous around girls but once I get to know them I fell relatively confident around them. Anyway , I have two qs to ask, one: is there a way I can feel good in myself? I either feel good about how I look or really bad so I don't know if people are ripping the piss out of me or actually like me. For example I was at a disco and a girl asked me would I kiss her friend. When I saw her friend she was beautiful. Me feeling no self confidence felt she was ripping the piss and so I just laughed even though she seemed serious?... I mean I'm not the ugliest thing in the world but since my features have all been negatively commented on during my life I feel no self worth... Help ... Also is it bad that I haven't kissed someone yet? I mean I don't feel it's something I am dying to do but something that I feel I need to do. This might just be because I am friends with a lot of people who are confident and have done so or because tv is always making a big deal about young love ( especially on kids shows like icarly) please help me as this really makes me worry .... Can you confert me or share some wisdom? Thanks for reading this :)
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I can't help you on the first part but I can help you on the second part. First of all, tv shows are ****** up. What they show usually doesn't happen often in real life, but they can sometimes have good lessons. Anyways, my point is, you don't have to have your first kiss yet. In my opinion, I'd rather wait it out so my first is pure magic, then forcing myself to find someone to kiss just to say I had my first kiss. Overall, my point is: Just wait and your first kiss will come naturally.
All that you describe in your feelings is actually "normal"! This is a time of your life that you are just getting to know yourself. What your interests are, your opinions, what type of person you want to become. "The world is your oyster" as they say is true. Don't rush these important moments just to "get them over with". Television is really the worst gauge of what life should be like, follow you instincts, if it feels wrong, it is....
As far as confidence, I think it comes with age and life experience and staying true to yourself. There is beauty in all things and people... is the truth. The first step to confidence is to treat <all others> with friendliness (and as you yourself would like to be treated) and never worry or think twice about what others are thinking of you. If you behave in this manor others will be attracted to you. Smile and reach outward to others by being helpful and polite, hard at first, but you will see many rewards and become more confident. The result is the more you like yourself = the more confidence you will gain in yourself.
If you do come across some negativity, and you will at some point, try to let it slide off your back; they're opinion doesn't matter. Chances are they are fighting their own battle.
Thank you for your fantastic advice ... Great wisdom and knowledge. You really have helped me more than you can imagine. Thanks
Thank you soo much for your answer... You have really helped me and I can't thank you enough. Also I tried to like your comment but since my screen was zoomed out on my iPod I disliked it by accident. Apologies